This sort of situation is called “mixed orientation” or “cross orientation” - and it’s totally OK.īear this in mind as you consider your sexual and romantic feelings. Sometimes we’re not.įor example, it’s possible to be romantically attracted to men but sexually attracted to men, women, and nonbinary people.

Sometimes we’re romantically and sexually attracted to the same groups of people. When it comes to orientation, we usually refer to romantic attraction (who you have strong romantic feelings for and desire a romantic relationship with) and sexual attraction (who you want to engage in sexual activity with). There are a few different forms of attraction. Having a sex dream about someone of the opposite gender doesn’t necessarily make you straight. Having a sex dream about someone of the same gender as you doesn’t necessarily make you gay. However, none of those things - sex dreams, sexual thoughts, or even feelings of intense attraction - necessarily “prove” your orientation.

Sometimes, we realize this because we have sex dreams, sexual thoughts, or feelings of intense attraction toward people of the same gender as us. Many of us grow up to assume that we’re straight only to find out, later, that we’re not. It all started with a sex dream - does this mean what I think it means?